Online Dating and You

You might not realize it, but we rely heavily on our computers more and more in our day to day lives. And this is great–it allows us to share a marketplace of ideas around the world. But, it’s not just ideas or the latest episode of the Bachelorette you might find online–what if I told you that you could find your soulmate online, in a safe and awesome way?

First Impressions are key

When you choose online dating, from the beginning, you’ll usually have to figure things out–basic things. For example, you need to provide a picture of yourself that tells people who you are, along with a username and profile that serves as your first impression–remember, those first impressions can mean saving time by culling your results to those that are meant to be your best matches. A little style and panache early on can save a ton of time later. By keeping your core values deeply-seeded in that first impression, you won’t need to waste time meeting people you have no interest in starting a relationship with. It also means that if you want something deeper or something casual, you can specify in that starting profile–this is SUCH a timesaver later on.

You may not know this, but my husband and I met online–where we had to take an extensive profile quiz to determine what types of things we wanted and how we felt about things in life. This took about 30 minutes of really focusing on the issues and questions I was asked to get a deeper answer. But, it didn’t just end there. Our results were tabulated and matches were made and sent to each of us in bursts–this means you have time to look at the matches to decide if they are truly something you are interested in, or if it’s something you might not be interested in. My husband and I were matched about two weeks into my month on the site–he had been off and on for a few years.

Getting to Know You

The chats we had were filled with guided questions and specific things we could reply with. It was super restricted at first, as to prohibit abuses of the system. Overall, I definitely think these safety measures were helped, and were something I wouldn’t have gotten elsewhere. It also gave us the ability to get to know each other without an awkward meeting at a coffee shop or surrounded by crowds of people.

As you traded messages, you got more freedom with things, and could see how the relationship progressed very organically. For example, one of my friends signed up for more casually-minded sex dating sites and she had luck with friendships and having some more personal relationships. And that’s the beauty of these sites–pay sites are only limited by your imagination. They are filled with consensual, like-minded people who are way easier to find than if you would be looking on a local Craigslist or some crowded bar. Adult dating sites have come a long way–they are the perfect place to meet like-minded people seeking friendship and fun–and you might just fall in love, too!